Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Life: Unscripted.

I am beginning to realize how much of our lives are lived out according to a script handed to us by others. The scripts we receive are handed to us by our parents, our teachers, our church, our friends, and our spiritual mentors. Though this is certainly expected, I have to ask, “Who authored the script?”

Living by a script requires me to perform accordingly. The essence of the script is a guide to how I am to live my life. Departure from the script is interpreted as a flawed performance.

There is even more pressure to perform appropriately when the same script is adopted by many (as in the church script.) The church script is characterized by faith, faithfulness, service, compassion, sacrifice, giving, study, and participation. Those who do well in their performance are rewarded with the title “good church members.” Others are judged for their “poor performance.”

What seems rather wrong is that few if any people following the Christian script experience joy, peace, rest and freedom (the very things Jesus promised to His followers). Instead there is guilt, striving, and judgment. Since we aren’t experiencing what Jesus told us to expect, we conclude that we must be “doing it wrong.” So we feel guilty, strive harder, and feel more miserable; or we fault the script passed to us, and begin our revisions. All along we tell ourselves that at least we are trying hard to follow the script.

Consider this: what if the script is flawed?

At first my thought was that we need to re-write the script, but I don’t think that’s right either. Just as soon as you begin to list the things we ought to do (our lines, actions, and part to play) then we eliminate much of the other stuff as non-essential or less important. A hierarchy of important roles develops again, giving us the same aspirations for achievement, and the same grounds for judging others. We have just substituted a new script that will lead to the same performance based living.

What would it look like to live life unscripted?

At first this is scary, “What will I do if I don’t have the script to follow?” Life will quickly spiral out of control (my control) and will result in chaos!

But hear the words of Jesus, He says, “Follow Me.” He doesn’t say, “Follow my script.” Life becomes an improvisation, a dialogue between Jesus and us. I have to go where He goes, and do what He does. On any given day He may redirect our path, take us in a new direction, have us sit and be still, or anything else He chooses.

People love to write scripts for others. Well-intentioned Christians have been doing it for ages. Here are some excerpts from some scripts I found in the drawer.
“Don’t drink, don’t smoke, don’t chew; don’t hang around with those who do.”
“Men shouldn’t wear skirts, and women shouldn’t wear pants.”
“Be at church every time the doors are open.”
“Don’t listen to rock-n-roll.”
“Tithe.”

What is interesting is that every new generation tends to reject the script of their parents, and in their “youthful wisdom and insight” they craft a “better” script. Couched in the terms of righteousness they fall into the same trap of every generation before them. They may begin by using a noble phrase like “what would Jesus do?” But then they proceed to write the new script according to their insight: Jesus would feed the homeless. Jesus would live under a bridge. Jesus would have no possessions. Jesus would never drive an SUV. Jesus would never watch TV or listen to the radio. Jesus would not attend church. Jesus would go to bars and nightclubs. And so the “new” script is crafted, the new standard for “performance” established, and the new ground for elevating ourselves and judging others is canonized.

But what if EVERY script is flawed?

What if Jesus didn’t come with a “new script,” but a way to live an improvisational life? A life that was moment by moment attuned to the Father’s direction. Do this now. Now do this. Now do this. This is the life of Jesus. He never spoke (or acted) of His own initiative, but only that which the Father gave Him to say (or do).

On any given day He may tell me to feed the homeless, or to study scripture, or visit the sick, or pray with my family, or work at my job. On another day, He may tell me to rest from my labor, take a nap, clean the garage, mow the yard, and pray for my neighbor. On another day I may be led to spend it in solitude and silence, totally disengaged from the world. The next day may be spent going door-to-door sharing the gospel message. There is no script! There is only listening to His direction and improvising along the way. No one has the right to judge the actions of another as “not performing according to the script.” God’s direction for our lives is as unique as each one of us is as an individual. (Please don’t tell me that how I am following God is wrong, unless it is clear contradiction of scripture; and I will try to refrain from framing the Christian life as scripted according to my understanding.)

God doesn’t desire a performance, but a friendship; a relationship founded on love, respect, trust, and good will. This is the path to rest, freedom, peace, and joy. It cannot be placed into a uniform script for everyone to follow. It is dynamic and new, life-changing, and life-giving. It is the well-spring of life bubbling forth in your soul. It is spontaneous and creative, but ordered by God, and compassionate. It is a day-by-day journey that consumes your entire life.

Is there any objective standard? What about sin?

There are clear prohibitions in scripture (what not to do); likewise there are clear proscriptions in scripture (what to do). There is no right time to do the wrong thing, so prohibitions stand. Regarding the timing, balance, and depth of engagement in proscribed activities, these are left to the leadership of the Spirit.

Apart from Him you can do nothing!

There is no script to follow. Instead there is a person, a voice, and a guiding hand. There are some prohibitions and some proscriptions, but what is required most is a keen sensitivity to the leadership of the Spirit. Success is evident in Christ-likeness and the fruit of the Spirit. Where the result is less than love, joy, peace, etcetera…we must assume that we are following a flawed script, rather than following Christ.

4 comments:

  1. I really like your challenge to us as Christians to not fall into a thinking trap, so to speak, which then becomes a performance expectation on our part. My only concern is how to do we deal with those people, that will take what you have suggested, ultimate freedom to follow Christ, and instead do their own thing and say they are following Christ? In a since, they want no constraints and disciplines in their lives. No input from others, no matter how well meaning and good it might be for them and others. In order to start this personal revolution to follow Christ, do we all quit our jobs and sit and wait for Him to direct us? I guess my question boils down to this: How do we KNOW that IT IS the Holy Spirit directing us and not just our thinking and wantings to do these things at this time and this place? Some people are just better at knowing or sensing or have learned faster, what the leading and the direction of the Holy Spirit is doing at that moment. So how do we, as dedicated followers of Christ, "learn" to know the Holy Spirit's leading? With out someone just throwing us in the water and hoping that we learn how to swim, so to speak. Where is the balance between following the Holy Spirit's leading moment by moment, as Christ did, and our having responsibilities, like jobs to provide for our families and taking care of our homes and other duties? I am all for Christians following the leading of the Holy Spirit, but some people will take what you have suggested as pure freedom, to not do any of our daily duties and responsibilities. How do we have that all important balance, when we are not supposed to follow other peoples "scripts?" I would say as a reminder to those that would take this and run with it to an extreme. Look at all of Jesus’ life not just the last three years of it. Before He began his ministry, we assume, that he was working as a carpenter or some sort of wood worker helping to provide for his younger siblings and mother until that was not needed anymore. So He did have duties and responsibilities and things that had to be done regularly, that he might not have liked doing. He did this for most of his life, say from 12 to 30, until he was called by the Holy Spirit to go and start His ministry.

    I say all of that just to suggest to those that would use what you have suggested, as the freedom to not do anything they don't want to do. I am all for you not following my script and me not following yours and together we follow God’s script. I believe that some will not be able to discern what is the Holy Spirit’s leading is and then do what they want to do and say that it is the Holy Spirit leading them to do this or not do that. How do we then deal with those ones that will abuse this “freedom” to not follow a script?

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  2. Kent, This is powerful stuff!! What if I were really to live my life like this? As I read this, I thought about how I live today (or three weeks ago :( ) Not only do I allow others to script my life, I try to script it. I start almost everyday with a list... what I want to get done in the day. Somehow I think this is still a good practice, (i.e. trying to be a good steward of my time) but like most things... I guess it needs to be done in moderation (with an open hand). On a typical day, I am so programmed that if God were to interrupt me with someone who I could have a impromptu, deep, meaningful conversation... I see it as a distraction and something "in my way". If I see a need that I am in a position to address, I struggle with... what about all the other things on my list... I won't get them done!!

    As you can imagine the things of the past three weeks has me thinking a lot about life and how I live it. I had many plans in the last weeks... We were going to go on vacation to Aruba... We had planned that a year ago. That did not happen... instead I buried my dad. When that happened, I told everyone I was going to come back to work last week Tuesday... when I got the call my nephew died in a car accident. I never did get to work. In my responses to people last week I changed my answer to... God willing, I will be at work on Tuesday. Maybe I need to change my "to do list" to... my "God Willing List"!!

    I need to really consider your unscripted life concept... God does lead in the momemt by moment events of our lives. Frankly I need him to lead me moment by moment!!! I don't know what sits right around the corner!!

    Kent... Thanks for all that you do to lead our church... for your wisdom and your compassion!! I love you brother!! - John

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  3. Now your talking. You said what I wanted to say but I dont have the intellect, experience, depth or style. I loved it! I appreciate and respect your leadership!
    Love ya! Kevin Whetzel

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  4. Mark,
    Some real good questions. Permit me to answer the two seemingly most important questions.

    You ask: (Beginning) My only concern is how to do we deal with those people, that will take what you have suggested, ultimate freedom to follow Christ, and instead do their own thing and say they are following Christ? (End) How do we then deal with those ones that will abuse this “freedom” to not follow a script?

    Answer: We don't. There is a principle of not judging to be applied here. (Think speck and log). Jesus told His disciples not to be bothered by those who were not following according to their script. (Luke 9:49-50)

    However, We can (and must) teach personal responsibility, and spiritual disicplines, and many other biblical truths ~ but conviction must come from the Spirit.

    That said, we are to be fruit inspectors. If someone is bearing bad fruit, or otherwise bringing discredit on the body of Christ, we are obliged to come along side of them in love with reproof and correction. (However I would again caution that we need to refrain from intorducing "our script" as the solution to their behavior. Instead point them to growing closer with Jesus, and leraning to listen to the Holy Spirit ~ which leads to your next question.)

    You asked: So how do we, as dedicated followers of Christ, "learn" to know the Holy Spirit's leading?

    Answer: We regocgnize the voice of the Spirit as a result of our relationship with Him. I expect that you do not normally need to tell your wife that you are the one speaking on the phone, though she cannot see you. As a result of time spent together, you recognize each other's voices. It is the same with the Holy Spirit.

    As a more objective answer to your question I would refer you to the teaching of Henry Blackaby in his book Expereincing God. He writes that the Holy Spirit speaks through The Word, prayer, circumstances and the church. (One quick side note is that we must be honest that often times we go to the Word looking for the "loophole" which will excuse our disobedience rather than for clear instruction of what to do and obey.) Learning to discern the voice of the Spirit is developed through relationship; which is grown through study, prayer, life-expereinces, and relationships with fellow believers.

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